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Friday, July 29, 2005

The BIRTHMOTHER TREE

The
BIRTHMOTHER TREE

Planted in June 1998


In Loving Memory of Blanche, who passed from this world on Sunday, May 9, 1999 -- Mother’s Day. One of the first Birthmothers to rest under this Tree, her life is an example to us all. Our tears will water the roots while her love and warmth will nurture this Tree as it continues to grow.





This Tree is a place of contemplation, reflection, and healing for all Birthmothers







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FOR MY DAUGHTER
Dedicated to all Birthmothers
Words and Music © 1994, 2003 by Mary McCarthy

Many are the years that passed us by
Since the day you left my side
Did you know I love you still
Do you know I always will

To hear a sample of the song, Click Here

This song is available on Binky's CD Squirrely Girl
For more information visit http://www.squirrelygirl.com









THE HISTORY OF THE BIRTHMOTHER TREE
For many years I've wanted to do something to honor not only my loss, but the losses that all birthmothers suffer when we surrender our children for adoption. We've been kept silent and in the shadows for too long. We've done nothing wrong, and nothing to be ashamed of. In the Bible it is written: "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son...". We who love our children so much that we gave them a better life despite our own pain deserve to be recognized and honored for making the ultimate sacrifice.

Some day I'd like to have a REAL tree which we can all visit to honor ourselves and help us heal.

Bless you all.... Binky.









In Honor of Unknown Birthmothers
Many adoptees are searching for their birthmothers and do not know their names. This is a special place to honor those women. This was submitted by an adoptee.

Birthmother's Name: Unknown but Loved
Birthmother's Age at time of Relinquishment: Wise beyond years
Date of Relinquishment: Hopefully never from your heart
Searching: yes
Date of Reunion: Soon????





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HEALING FOR THOSE WHOSE SEARCH AND REUNION ENDS IN PAIN
Not all reunions turn out the way we hope and dream. Sometimes the person we are searching for does not want to be reunited with us. Sometimes the person we are searching for has passed away before we can find them to be reunited. And, sometimes we never find the person we so long to see again. For all those whose searches end in sadness, I offer you love and hope, and the acknowledgement that your search was not in vain.